Can You Be a Christian and Still Cuss Like a Sailor? Let’s Talk About It
Deborah Colleen Rose
4/16/20254 min read
Let’s get real: you’re sitting there in your comfy chair, sipping coffee, and maybe your mind is wandering to that one situation last week where you accidentally (or maybe not-so-accidentally) dropped a few choice words. And guess what? You still love Jesus. And He still loves you. But can you cuss and still walk in God’s way? Let’s break it down, shall we?
What Does the Bible Actually Say About Swearing?
First off, let’s not be too quick to assume that cussing is the end of the world. The Bible talks about words a lot. Ephesians 4:29 (ESV) says:
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear."
Notice it doesn’t say, “Let no four-letter words come out of your mouth” (though, let’s be real, the Bible’s also not thrilled about using words to tear people down). The key here is purpose—are your words building up, or are they blowing things up?
If your cuss words are doing the latter—maybe time to dial it back a bit. But if your words are honest, raw, and they actually help someone out of a tough spot—well, God’s not shaking His head at you. He’s probably a little impressed with your realness.
Colossians 3:8 (NIV) gets even more in your face:
"But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips."
Wait, so here’s the deal: God’s more concerned about the attitude behind your words than the actual words themselves. Yes, filthy language is on the list—but it’s about the heart behind it. Are you using those words to spit venom at someone? Or is it just you, venting after a long day of running around like a chicken with its head cut off?
Jesus Wasn’t Exactly “Clean” in the Polite Sense
Let’s talk about Jesus for a second—because if you think the man was always meek and mild with a soft, angelic voice, you clearly missed some of His more fiery moments. Take, for example, when He flipped the tables in the temple (Matthew 21:12-13). That wasn’t exactly “family-friendly content.” Jesus was mad—like, righteous anger mad. He didn’t have time for people profiting off of His Father’s house. That wasn’t a gentle reprimand, folks.
Matthew 23:27 (NLT):
"What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs—beautiful on the outside but filled on the inside with dead people’s bones and all sorts of impurity."
And there you have it—a direct hit to the religious folks, calling them out in no uncertain terms. Do you think Jesus was thinking, “Oh, I better watch my language. I don’t want to upset anyone”? Nope. He spoke truth, no matter how raw it was. Now, He didn’t go around swearing just for fun, but He wasn’t afraid to speak truth in a way that grabbed people’s attention.
Paul Gets “Real” Too
Let’s move to Paul, who was no stranger to speaking bluntly. In Philippians 3:8, he drops this truth bomb:
"Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ."
Now, that word “rubbish”? In Greek, it’s skubalon, and let me tell you—it’s the equivalent of dropping a well-timed expletive. So, yeah—Paul called everything that wasn’t Jesus absolute trash. He wasn’t trying to be polite—he was being raw. And sometimes, raw is what it takes.
It’s Not About the Word, It’s About the Heart
Matthew 12:34 (ESV) tells us:
"For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
Here’s the kicker: if you’ve got a heart full of anger, bitterness, or pride, yeah, the F-bombs are probably going to start flying. But if your heart is seeking God’s love, mercy, and truth, even if you slip up, it’s still coming from a place of honesty and not hate.
James 3:10 (NIV) says:
"Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be."
Okay, so maybe not every day is a “praise and cussing” kind of day (though some days do feel like that, am I right?). But James is getting at the deeper truth: your words shouldn’t contradict your purpose. If your language is damaging your witness, then yeah, we need to address it. But if your words are just part of your authenticity, it’s less about perfection and more about intention.
Can Strong Language Be Holy?
Romans 14:13 (NLT) says:
"So let’s stop condemning each other. Decide instead to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall."
Here’s the deal: cussing isn’t about whether it’s allowed or not. It’s about knowing the impact it has on others. Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is not drop the F-bomb in front of someone who’s easily offended. Other times, maybe it’s about speaking from your heart and knowing that God’s grace covers your rawness.
The Bottom Line: Keep It Real, Keep It Kind
At the end of the day, can you cuss and still love Jesus? Yes, but remember this: God’s more interested in the heart behind your words than the words themselves. Are you speaking life? Are you speaking truth? Are you speaking with kindness? If you can’t answer “yes” to at least one of those, maybe it’s time to reconsider the vocabulary for a second.
And hey—don’t beat yourself up if a “darn it” or a “hell” slips out now and then. Jesus isn’t grading you on your language; He’s grading you on the state of your heart. So, let’s work on that, and if your salty words slip out every now and then, don’t sweat it—just make sure they’re coming from a place of love, not hurt.
Psalm 19:14 (ESV) sums it up:
"Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer."
God isn’t asking for fake purity. He’s asking for real transformation. So, let’s aim for authenticity, not perfection. Because, let’s face it, a perfectly polished Christian who never drops a word of frustration is probably just hiding a lot of stuff. Keep it real, and keep it gracious.
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